I won’t stand for this slander of school counselors—I am one…


Seriously, you can copy and paste what you shared straight into what I’ve said to my own students. Our counseling department has been loud about this and administration keeps kneecapping us. Not really ours, it’s not like our principals have anymore power than us, it’s the school board, superintendent, and local/state politicians.
When we work with students one-on-one, the goal is to help them experience consequences, want something different, build responsibility, and mature into young professionals. But that whole process starts with step one—letting kids actually experience consequences—and we’re not even allowed that.
In my experience, the moment a student feels discomfort, boredom, or dislike toward school, the bureaucrats swoop in and pressure us to smooth it over. I’m not kidding, they make up spreadsheet after spreadsheet of my own students—someone far above me who I’ve never met—and send it to me with names of students and who are not cutting it. I do use it to do real, actual counseling, but the real pressure from above is to go to their teachers and convince them to give the kid some leeway. I refuse. It feels gross and the student hasn’t earned anything—which is also demeaning to them that we hold them to such low expectations! I can’t count how many times I’ve told a student point-blank, “If you don’t do the work, you won’t pass, and you’ll end up in summer school or retained.” And then, somehow, they move on anyways without having done anything themselves to change course.
It undercuts everything I’m trying to teach them about becoming a responsible adult.