Oh absolutely I have seen some absolute train wrecks from the my way or the highway guys... I’ve also seen the same train wreck from the I’ll be your best friend guys... the best leaders are able to conform to the situation and as you said be able to get that desired result from everyone... the best leaders are able to walk the very fine line of my way or the highway, and I’m here for you... you have to draw that line in the sand, let the joes know what will be tolerated and the biggest key of all is hold that standard, you hold anyone and everyone accountable to that standard... every situation is different, and that’s what I let my soldiers know, and my other NCOs... I let them know that I encourage them to make “command decisions” but to know if the wrong decision is made then there will be consequences and when they know that up front then they tend to think of the repercussions before they take the action... some will test your stance, and once you get all outlying information and vet, then you discipline as you the situation requires... some discipline will be severe, some will be a little slap on the wrist, none will be based on perceived performance or relationship... a leader needs to lead by example, hold yourself to a higher standard then you expect from your subordinates, you need to train guide and mentor, and you have to find that balance between sincere and hard ***... being a leader is not easy, and it will require you to take the fall for a lot of things... you HAVE to own it, even if it’s not yours... then the crap tumbles down hill after all it is your program you are the one responsible at the end you should have been trusting but verifying things were going right... the way I found to gain trust and confidence is to not just say I have my joes backs, but to show them... I will take the fall when **** goes south... then once out of public eye, I dish out the required punishment behind closed doors... I tell my joes when I discipline it’s not personnel it purely Professional