Ray Rice - too soon?

yesrutgers01

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That woman must not have a father in the picture. Mine would have put a bullet in RR's head.
That is fair enough and agree. If that was my child, male or female...there could be nothing to stop me.

With that said- over time and seeing what Ray has done since then, I do find it in me to forgive. If I was the father and my daughter decided it was the right thing to help this young man she loved turn his life around, I would also support her but with a very tight eye on it. And if I saw how it turned, I would never forget but I would now be at both their sides giving back
 

willisneverrana43

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He knocked her cold and carried her out of the elevator like a sandbag. He's tried to, and continues to try to, redeem himself and show that it was one bad act. Good for him. Keep it up. He can even have videos at the stadium (already happened) and show up and be applauded. All good. Wouldn't wear his jersey though.
 

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I know I'm going to get torched for this but, any kind of assault on another is wrong...period!
I cannot understand why, in this world of total equality, a woman is always given the pass.
She spit in his face!!! Try doing that to a cop and see what happens in court.
I am not condoning what Ray did, just saying that in the heat of the moment she "struck" first.
Playing football certainly didn't help him either as there is plenty of extra curricular activity going on the field and reactions can sometimes become automatic.
 

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Couldn't find my regular jersey for the game and saw old #27 hanging there. I thought why not. He made a huge mistake, He lost his career because of it. He went on to speak to college kids about it. They were both drunk, she spit in his face and he lost it. She forgave him they still got married afterwards.

So I put it on, went downstairs and my wife's face turned absolutely white. She would answer the above question with NFW.

Interested in what the board thinks. Gentlemen? Ladies? Can he ever be forgiven? Is it socially acceptable to wear a Ray Rice jersey at the stadium?
Ask the parole commissions that will release Sirhan Sirhan / Hinckley.

Put that jersey on ....it's time!

MO
 

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Couldn't find my regular jersey for the game and saw old #27 hanging there. I thought why not. He made a huge mistake, He lost his career because of it. He went on to speak to college kids about it. They were both drunk, she spit in his face and he lost it. She forgave him they still got married afterwards.

So I put it on, went downstairs and my wife's face turned absolutely white. She would answer the above question with NFW.

Interested in what the board thinks. Gentlemen? Ladies? Can he ever be forgiven? Is it socially acceptable to wear a Ray Rice jersey at the stadium?
I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s not like the number has been retired regardless of how you feel about Ray.
 
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Couldn't find my regular jersey for the game and saw old #27 hanging there. I thought why not. He made a huge mistake, He lost his career because of it. He went on to speak to college kids about it. They were both drunk, she spit in his face and he lost it. She forgave him they still got married afterwards.

So I put it on, went downstairs and my wife's face turned absolutely white. She would answer the above question with NFW.

Interested in what the board thinks. Gentlemen? Ladies? Can he ever be forgiven? Is it socially acceptable to wear a Ray Rice jersey at the stadium?
Ray Rice, was wrongfully sacrificed for the times we live in. In today’s world a woman can launch ANY allegation against a man and it will be adjudicated and most likely the man will lose even if the allegations were not true! This is where our legal system is today.
Ray was physically attacked several times first, hit in the body and face by his now wife, before he lost it. I have watched the videos at least a hundred times and jamell hit ray several times before it was lights out.
there are guys playing in the nfl today who have been in proximity of murders, drugs, animal cruelty, physical violence against significant others and the public and yet they are still employed and protected by the NFL. Ray was sacrificed for what purpose I do not know but he did not deserve the punishment he received.
wear the shirt…proudly!
 
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yesrutgers01

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Ray Rice, was wrongfully sacrificed for the times we live in. In today’s world a woman can launch ANY allegation against a man and it will be adjudicated and most likely the man will lose even if the allegations were not true! This is where our legal system is today.
Ray was physically attacked several times first, hit in the body and face by his now wife, before he lost it. I have watched the videos at least a hundred times and jamell hit ray several times before it was lights out.
there are guys playing in the nfl today who have been in proximity of murders, drugs, animal cruelty, physical violence against significant others and the public and yet they are still employed and protected by the NFL. Ray was sacrificed for what purpose I do not know but he did not deserve the punishment he received.
wear the shirt…proudly!
While I do think he paid a higher price than many that have done as bad or worse…justifying it is batsh&t crazy.
every single one of us have had a woman start something similar- I can justify a man using force as in, holding the woman back, gripping her wrists or maybe even pushing, if it is to protect himself or get away. And yes, so many times, men have been arrested for protecting themselves in this way which is not fair. But…coldcocking the woman is not ok unless there is a weapon. I wish some of you guys stop making men look bad by trying to justify what he did. He was wrong.
but you can talk about his punishment as being too harsh compared to his contemporaries.
 
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Ray Rice, was wrongfully sacrificed for the times we live in. In today’s world a woman can launch ANY allegation against a man and it will be adjudicated and most likely the man will lose even if the allegations were not true! This is where our legal system is today.
Ray was physically attacked several times first, hit in the body and face by his now wife, before he lost it. I have watched the videos at least a hundred times and jamell hit ray several times before it was lights out.
there are guys playing in the nfl today who have been in proximity of murders, drugs, animal cruelty, physical violence against significant others and the public and yet they are still employed and protected by the NFL. Ray was sacrificed for what purpose I do not know but he did not deserve the punishment he received.
wear the shirt…proudly!
This man should NOT have knocked this woman out and dragged her body. This is love? Ha. You don't touch a woman EVER! (SHE IS WRONG TOO and hopefully had charges against her)
His girlfriend hitting him didn't knock him out though.
Revel elevators have alarms. Therefore this "man" should have pushed the button and security would have come and dealt with her.
Your response doesn't shock me due to your hate of women, NJ courts and your ex wife, which you've displayed on the CE board.
 
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mildone_rivals

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This man should NOT have knocked this woman out and dragged her body. This is love? Ha. You don't touch a woman EVER! (SHE IS WRONG TOO and hopefully had charges against her)
Her hitting him didn't knock him out though.
Revel elevators have alarms. Therefore this "man" should have pushed the button and security would have come and dealt with her.
Your response doesn't shock me due to your hate of women, NJ courts and your ex wife, which you've displayed on the CE board.
Exactly. Love is bringing a woman (and her darn LEO boyfriend) donuts. 😍
 
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This man should NOT have knocked this woman out and dragged her body. This is love? Ha. You don't touch a woman EVER! (SHE IS WRONG TOO and hopefully had charges against her)
His girlfriend hitting him didn't knock him out though.
Revel elevators have alarms. Therefore this "man" should have pushed the button and security would have come and dealt with her.
Your response doesn't shock me due to your hate of women, NJ courts and your ex wife, which you've displayed on the CE board.
Wait ... your assertion is that Ray Rice (or any other man) should just push an alarm button and sit there in an elevator and get hit until security comes?
 

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Wait ... your assertion is that Ray Rice (or any other man) should just push an alarm button and sit there in an elevator and get hit until security comes?
She didn't say that at all. Pushing the alarm button and subduing his wife without punching her in the face was achievable for a man who could put 325 pound linemen on their ***. Or is your assertion that Mrs. Rice is more powerful than 325 pound linemen?
 

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Wait ... your assertion is that Ray Rice (or any other man) should just push an alarm button and sit there in an elevator and get hit until security comes?
You're right. It's near impossible to even imagine how he could have survived the onslaught, the periolous danger. She was coming right at him. With tremendous speed built up after 4 feet of sprinting. With a deadly phone in her hand. It was a good thing that he had already taken a little bit out of her with his first left moments earlier. But it wasn't enough. I shiver when I think of the consquences that would have befallen him had he not continued to use the brave and necessary defensive tactics that you champion. He was lucky to get out of there alive. Trapped in there with her. Against his will. More victims like him should chose the right path, take your counsel and do the right thing.
 
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Wait ... your assertion is that Ray Rice (or any other man) should just push an alarm button and sit there in an elevator and get hit until security comes?
No, of course not. Any man who is ever struck or spat at should not show any restraint and just knock the female out cold like Tyson. Smdh
In my world...He should have left the elevator and called the cops. He knocked her out. Then proceeded to drag her out of the elevator like hunters drag their kill.
He could have restrained her from behind, no? Nope, he KNOCKED HER THE F*CK OUT!

I'm glad he is reformed. I really am.
I hope him and the wife live a lovely life. I hope he teaches his children violence is NEVER the answer.
Idc who wears his Jersey. Maybe there's a sale on Aaron H's and Michael Vicks too.
 

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Well , this thread has taken an interesting and sad turn . Never thought I would actually see the day were rice’s actions would ever be justified by anyone.
Did rice ever say why he hit her ? Alcohol , steroids , other drugs or she cheated/did something to piss him off ? Obviously his actions were wrong …and realizing why he did it is the first step in admitting being wrong and trying to do right. Has he done that ?
 
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She didn't say that at all.
It is exactly what she said - "Revel elevators have alarms. Therefore this "man" should have pushed the button and security would have come and dealt with her."

Or is your assertion that Mrs. Rice is more powerful than 325 pound linemen?
Did I say that? No. Then why would you ask if that's what I was asserting?
 

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Well , this thread has taken an interesting and sad turn . Never thought I would actually see the day were rice’s actions would ever be justified by anyone.

Everyone is a feminist until they are expected to hold women to the same standard that they hold men.

Did rice ever say why he hit her ? Alcohol , steroids , other drugs or she cheated/did something to piss him off ?

I think most people assumed it was because SHE WAS HITTING HIM.
 
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Well , this thread has taken an interesting and sad turn . Never thought I would actually see the day were rice’s actions would ever be justified by anyone.
Did rice ever say why he hit her ? Alcohol , steroids , other drugs or she cheated/did something to piss him off ? Obviously his actions were wrong …and realizing why he did it is the first step in admitting being wrong and trying to do right. Has he done that ?

clearly you have not followed the story. Yes, Ray said he was drunk off his ***. Yes, Ray admitted he was 150% wrong. YES Ray has done a ton of things since then to try to right his wrong including PTI, anger management, apologizing publicly to his wife, his family & his fans and by going around the country talking to professional and college sports teams, including Rutgers, about why you should never let this happen.
 
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It is exactly what she said - "Revel elevators have alarms. Therefore this "man" should have pushed the button and security would have come and dealt with her."


Did I say that? No. Then why would you ask if that's what I was asserting?
There's a delicious irony to the fact that you are repeatedly misreading and misstating what she wrote (you've done it again up above), yet complaining when I merely asked for your view, as opposed to my just going ahead like you did to her, and misstating what you wrote.

I'd explain why she didn't say what you're saying she said. But I think you can figure it out for yourself.
 
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sunsetregret

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325 pound defensive lineman used to hit Ray all the time.
Consensually for money.

He managed to not punch them in the face.
Yes, because he contractually agreed not to (in return for money). Of course, if one of them came running at him in the hallway after the game and threw a punch at him, there isn't a person on this message board that would criticize Rice if he had dropped him with a punch in response.
 

mildone_rivals

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Consensually for money.


Yes, because he contractually agreed not to (in return for money). Of course, if one of them came running at him in the hallway after the game and threw a punch at him, there isn't a person on this message board that would criticize Rice if he had dropped him with a punch in response.
Ray and his wife are under a contractual agreement that can be fairly interpreted as saying they won't punch each other in the face. And of course nobody would fault Ray for punching a 325 pound lineman that threw a punch at him first. Because in that specific situation, he's actually in real danger of being hurt.

You seem to think that, if somebody or something attacks you, then you are under no obligation to show any restraint in your response, there's no need to tailor your reaction to the specific situation. So, for instance, if a six week old kitten bites your ankle, I suppose you'd feel perfectly entitled to kick it across the room and then run over to stomp it dead. Right?
 

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Ray and his wife are under a contractual agreement that can be fairly interpreted as saying they won't punch each other in the face.
A social contract, maybe. I don't even think they were married when the incident occurred, so there certainly wasn't a written contract. Regardless, to whatever extent there was a "contract" in place, she breached it when she hit him.

You seem to think that, if somebody or something attacks you, then you are under no obligation to show any restraint in your response, there's no need to tailor your reaction to the specific situation.
Not at all. If someone physically attacks you, I believe you're entitled to utilize force one step higher in response until the attack has stopped. And then you must stop. And that's exactly what Rice did in the elevator. She hit him; he used proportionate force in response; and then he immediately stopped when her attack had ceased.
 

mildone_rivals

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A social contract, maybe. I don't even think they were married when the incident occurred, so there certainly wasn't a written contract. Regardless, to whatever extent there was a "contract" in place, she breached it when she hit him.


Not at all. If someone physically attacks you, I believe you're entitled to utilize force one step higher in response until the attack has stopped. And then you must stop. And that's exactly what Rice did in the elevator. She hit him; he used proportionate force in response; and then he immediately stopped when her attack had ceased.
There was nothing proportionate in his response. She hit him with all the force of a fishing boat brushing up against a nuclear powered aircraft carrier. He hit her with the force of a elephant stomping on a fly.
 

sunsetregret

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There was nothing proportionate in his response. She hit him with all the force of a fishing boat brushing up against a nuclear powered aircraft carrier. He hit her with the force of a elephant stomping on a fly.

I disagree. So does the legal system. That's why he wasn't prosecuted.
 

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A social contract, maybe. I don't even think they were married when the incident occurred, so there certainly wasn't a written contract. Regardless, to whatever extent there was a "contract" in place, she breached it when she hit him.


Not at all. If someone physically attacks you, I believe you're entitled to utilize force one step higher in response until the attack has stopped. And then you must stop. And that's exactly what Rice did in the elevator. She hit him; he used proportionate force in response; and then he immediately stopped when her attack had ceased.

"Proportionate" ...lmao.

Do you simply revel in being aggressively wrong on every issue? And kinda a POS to boot?
 

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clearly you have not followed the story. Yes, Ray said he was drunk off his ***. Yes, Ray admitted he was 150% wrong. YES Ray has done a ton of things since then to try to right his wrong including PTI, anger management, apologizing publicly to his wife, his family & his fans and by going around the country talking to professional and college sports teams, including Rutgers, about why you should never let this happen.
Did he also go to alcohol counseling as that was what he said caused the problem in the first place ? I assume he talks about the dangers of drinking when he does these talks.
 

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I kind of think that's not the actual reason he wasn't prosecuted.
I disagree. They have the incident on video and it is as clear as day that she was the aggressor, she hit him first, and he responded with one single unarmed action. As a defense attorney, you can't ask for better self-defense evidence.
 

mildone_rivals

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I disagree. They have the incident on video and it is as clear as day that she was the aggressor, she hit him first, and he responded with one single unarmed action. As a defense attorney, you can't ask for better self-defense evidence.
You're a defense lawyer?
 

mildone_rivals

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I make the majority of my money in estate planning, but yes, I've defended people in criminal court. I've also been a federal agent, so I've been on both sides of the criminal justice system.
Then I will defer to your expertise with why they dropped the charges. However, as a defense lawyer, you know that charges are dropped all the time for reasons other than because the defendant was innocent.
 

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Then I will defer to your expertise with why they dropped the charges. However, as a defense lawyer, you know that charges are dropped all the time for reasons other than because the defendant was innocent.
In high profile cases, it's entirely prosecutor-dependent. If a prosecutor likes you, the charges will be plead-down to a single misdemeanor or dropped, even if you committed the crime. If a prosecutor dislikes you (or is up for re-election), he will pile on as many serious charges as possible, even if you have legitimate and/or reasonable defenses.

However, this situation is different because there is clear video. And you almost never have clear video.
 

Plum Street

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What I have gathered in this thread was rice was/maybe still a drunk and was a domestic abuser , yet many people wax poetic about him . Posters on this board get more criticism for predictions gone wrong. Heck, some of us get more criticism for predictions gone right !
 

mildone_rivals

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In high profile cases, it's entirely prosecutor-dependent. If a prosecutor likes you, the charges will be plead-down to a single misdemeanor or dropped, even if you committed the crime. If a prosecutor dislikes you (or is up for re-election), he will pile on as many serious charges as possible, even if you have legitimate and/or reasonable defenses.

However, this situation is different because there is clear video. And you almost never have clear video.
This article sheds some light on the dismissal of charges, I think...


A couple relevant excerpts:

Rice’s admission into the state’s pretrial interview program drew criticism.

Only 70 of the more than 15,000 domestic violence assault cases adjudicated from 2010 to 2013 in New Jersey’s Superior Court were admitted into the pretrial intervention program, according to records obtained by The Associated Press.


And:

Defendants can have charges dismissed if they meet all the program’s conditions, which can include random urine testing, community service and restitution. PTI supervision averages from one to three years, according to the state.

Of the 15,029 people charged with assault in domestic violence cases from 2010 to 2013, 8,203 had their cases dismissed or downgraded to a lower court, according to the data provided by the state judiciary. Nearly 3,100 pleaded guilty, 13 were found guilty at trial and nine were found not guilty.


It sort of seems like it was never very likely Rice would've been tried anyway, based on that information. So it's unclear that her initial attack on him was the sole or even deciding factor that led to the dismissal of charges against him.