I had identical twin daughters who are now 25. I damn near lost my ******* mind when they were seniors in high school
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I have fraternal twin daughters. This **** ain't easy.
I feel for you guys. I have two daughters who were never a minute of trouble. Neither were their brothers. I have been blessed. And I wish the same for you.
We had a 2yr old daughter in 1995, when her twin sisters were born.
I gave up caffeine cold turkey in 1996 cause I was turning into not a good father.
Needless to say, it was a challenge. Typical daughters growing up for the most part.
Can’t imagine surviving the high school years and college if I didn’t.
Things turned out Ok. All 3 have their Masters Degrees and are beautiful, polite, intelligent , God fearing women.
2 are married so far and I have 1 granddaughter, who is an adorable, soon to be 2 year old.
Saying I am blessed, would be an understatement.
Dad brag: My daughter just received her PhD in Chemistry from Baylor.
Awesome, a PhD in chemistry is impressive!
BTW, from your pic, I would've never guessed you're a retired police officer...
Too svelte? Too happy? The retiree goatee?
Our youngest is 16. We said if we had her first, we wouldnt have another. She was terribly bullheaded and an awful temper (2 of my finest qualities). But something clicked when she got to high school and quite frankly she is a completely different kid. She loves school and does very well in it. Still stubborn, but not nearly as bad.
Yikes. Thats a lot to deal with there. A solid friend group is so important for teens. Sorry I dont have much advise for you.
IMO, it comes down to this. We moved, in large part to get her away from a group of friends. We're now in an affluent area where (it seems) every single teenage girl in our neighborhood is a straight-laced honors student cheerleader, yet the first friend she made was the 15yr old who is in an alternative school, has purple hair and tons of piercing, and states that she is a non-binary therian (yes, she wears a tail, at all times). All these girls think my daughter is witty and fun, but she refuses to befriend them. Despite being so good, at so many things, she chooses to surround herself with the lowest common denominator. Maybe being around the most apathetic people makes it easy to stand out? It also can't help that her brother (my 11yr old) is Captain freaking America; I thought I was straight-laced, he takes it to another level. We all know she's annoyed because he never seems to do the wrong thing or get in trouble.
I grew up in the heart of inner-city LA. I am the second of 5 children to a single mother who supported us all as a medical assistant. We barely know our birth father, who has spent his life in-and-out of prison. I was the first person in my family to graduate high school. I'd like to think I've achieved the American dream, and it comes down to the people I surrounded myself with. I am still best friends with the 3 guys I have been connected to the hip with since elementary school and a larger circle of friends that is still close to this day. All first generation U.S. citizens, from broken homes and no money, and all are now very successful with beautiful families while most of the people we grew up with are dead, in jail, or other fun circumstances. We have been pushing each other to be better for four decades. Those three men are like uncles to my daughter (closer than her real uncles) and they echo the same sentiment to her: that we collectively saved each other. I can only hope someday it clicks for her.
Grats! Baylor is a good school. My eldest son graduated from Baylor (we were at Fort Hood at the time). My other 2 both graduated from PSU. I constantly tell my eldest not to worry about going to Baylor because kids are like pancakes... the first one never turns out right.Dad brag: My daughter just received her PhD in Chemistry from Baylor.
I don’t even know you but am proud of what you have accomplished. Great story. Kudos to your Mom for sure. Praying for your daughter to make good choices like you have.
Are you proofreading now? lol
I guess that you have time for this as there is not a big wrestling event within 1,000 miles of you.
We are blessed and my twins ended up getting nursing degrees and were always good in school .the main issue was when they turned 18 during their senior year and thought they were all grown up lol
God I'm so glad that's over i look at them now and you would think it never happened.
If I said, “ don’t sweat the petty” once, I said hundreds of times during those trying times.
Pretty sure that’s why I am bald…
I tell mine I had a head full of hair with two dime sized white spots in my beard as they entered their teens. By the time they hit 20 I was half way to bald and everything was white. It was like watching a 2 term president age.If I said, “ don’t sweat the petty” once, I said hundreds of times during those trying times.
Pretty sure that’s why I am bald…
Senior Year of High School: "I have all the answers"
25-35 "I don't even have all the damn questions"
Never had a daughter, but have a niece that I'm pretty close due to her mom's passing-now finishing up college. Concerned that her dual major is one that sounds good, but is limited and the other might have a target on it that says "Hey AI, kick me here".
Until her freshman roommate filled the room with lesbian porn she was pretty sure of herself, When I got a phone call that contained the phrase "I don't know how to do this, help me" after the POS Hyundai she bought because it was black wouldn't pass inspection. I knew the storm was subsiding. She's pretty good at thinking things through now a little more deeply when asked "and then what?" and "have you thought how this might bite you in the butt?"
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Evolution must want our young adults to be this way. They have to resent their parents, so that they will leave the nest. Leaving the nest as young adults must’ve been a survival advantage for our ancient ancestors. And, having left the nest, they have to (1) compete with others and (2) take action without looking to parents. Maybe irrational confidence (know-it-all-ness) was an advantage for our ancient ancestors for both (1) and (2).
Note that many of us lose our irrational confidence once we are past child-bearing age. So, maybe irrational confidence is especially advantageous for competition for mates, or for competition for one’s place in the pecking order, or just to encourage taking action without looking to the parents for instruction. Once those three needs become less, then maybe the price of irrational confidence is no longer worth paying. So I think that evolution wants us to fake it till we make it, at least when we are young adults. And after we make it, or fail to make it, evolution might want us to stop faking it.
[add: And note that evolution does not want young kids to have irrational confidence. If we think that humility is important for learning, then it would make sense that young kids, who have a lot to learn, should be humble and not be know-it-all. And evolution must want young adults to pay the price of being a bit bad at learning, for the gain of being better at competing with others or being better at leaving the nest.]
The above is just thinking out loud. I have not googled it or anything.
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