Memphis is rough, but like EVERY big city in America, if you know your surroundings and know how to carry yourself, you will be fine. I’ve actually never been to Memphis, but you drop me anywhere in that city and nothing bad will happen to me. The right wing is on a campaign right now to convince whites that big cities should be avoided. It’s bizarre and counterproductive, but it’s undeniably happening.
As for judgment, you have to judge people, and you will subconsciously whether you want to or not. You aren’t being an adult if you aren’t making judgments. Every single person I come in contact with, I’m gauging mainly if they are genuine in what they are saying. It literally just comes down to whether that person is showing me basic respect and decency. My bar is fairly low. However, I currently work in a field where customers lie CONSTANTLY. If I just take everyone at their word, I won’t remain employed very long.