Okay, this is a long one, but please, sit down with a box of thin mints and enjoy. If I help even one person understand why their emotional rollercoastering doesn't make sense from a logical standpoint, I will be overcome with gladness.
Look, I don't have any beef with you as a poster. I have no idea what you know or don't know about probability, but this is a great setup for me to discuss something that really needs to be said on here about a few of our panic artists on this board:
If you want to talk about who should be allowed to debate, if we draw the line anywhere, it should really be between people who understand stats and those who don't.
With many of us the gap in understanding on this topic is literally the same as between a 5 year old child and their elementary school teacher, and as a result some of the loudest arguments about what "should've happened" are so misinformed that they're frankly embarassing and would force me to put a student into remediation.
I'm not interested in belittling anyone based on their education level (or if you got a pointless expensive piece of paper studying underwater feminist lesbian dance theory). It's not worth everybody's time to spend decades on any one topic, including mathematics. I get that.
Lacking understanding is not the issue. There are tons of things I know nothing about - auto body work, raising giraffes in captivity, building solar arrays, you name it. And I'm willing to admit it and listen.
In contrast, some believe that they innately understand from experience what is statistically likely and what is not, even though many have emotional, tear-smudged perspectives on what is likely to occur, and those percentages change from hour to hour based on their hormones and how much Maker's is left in the bottle.
Again, you don't need to waste decades in school - just a fundamental grasp of a few concepts would propel some on here to vast new heights logically.
At the end of the day, the debate is just going to be between people who understand the following: if you have, say, a 97% chance to win a certain game, and you play 35-40 games a season, then you will, with near certainty, end up on the wrong side of that game multiple times over a decade-long career. Let's call this horrible event "the bad loss".
"The bad loss" will occur regularly, at some interval or another, and it will occur regardless of effort, desire, focus, talent, or coaching ability. The nature of probability is such that once in a while the cumulative effect of bounces, refs, issues in the players' lives, illness/injury status, etc will simply combine in some bizarre fashion to not go your way, so a loss is not a truly unrealistic outcome versus any D1 team.
Yes, every single close loss can be explained away by a bad play here or a coaching decision there, but those mistakes occur in every game for every single team, win or lose - they are as certain as the sun rising in the morning. You probably fixate on these little flaws most strongly during close losses, but they always happen - they are a virtual guarantee unless we roll out 5 robots.
And even without these little flaws, "the bad loss" would still come with certainty due to factors I mentioned earlier (bounces/refs/etc), but it will come even more frequently given the fact that you can write into every game a few instances of human error. For every team in every sport, from now until the end of time. Guaranteed.
The people who don't understand this concept will act - not just sad - but genuinely, freshly horrified and experience anxiety that extends into their regular life whenever "the bad loss" comes (as rare as it may be) and they will scramble to find someone on whom to pour out their frustration because without any understanding, their only outlet for their emotions is to lash out.
And before I hear it, the point is not that the rational view is to accept every loss as fine. Sometimes a bad loss is obviously the fault of a coach or a player for a very specific reason/action that could be readily pinpointed and corrected.
But that's only the case for some losses. Often, the attitude and effort is all there, and things just fell apart in tiny little moments that add up. There is no level of perfection that you could ever reach that would eliminate losses or even just upsets.
In other words, the horrible losses that make some of you guys want to kick your dog are going to come from time to time regardless, just like a person with perfect health habits can still be diagnosed with many terrible diseases.
Many diseases are rarer in the health-conscious individual, just like losses (especially upsets) are rarer under Cal than any other coach. But they still happen, no matter how good you are.
So the rational view is to set some reasonable threshold of winning in advance (taking into account what other high level coaches in the modern era are able to achieve), and then look at progress over the years and decades. You stick with it and let that keep you measured instead of throwing post-loss tantrums that you would never accept from your 5 year old.
It's like with weight loss: often people with a tenuous grasp of biology will sit there and panic day-to-day with every pound up and down, and that is a massive waste of energy for them and is selfishly draining towards everyone around them.
You will gain and shed pounds over silly things like sodium retention and that small-scale data is just useless noise in regards to your actual goals.
The only rational way to approach weight loss is to set a realistic goal in advance (taking into account what other motivated people are able to achieve), and then look at progress over months and years.
This is also the PC way to describe different humans' responses to realizing that they've run out of ice cream in the freezer. From age 3 to adulthood, that response varies wildly.
In fact, some of those humans would describe the ice-creamless event as an example of "adversity" with a straight face. Although the ones who react the most acutely probably don't have that word in their vocab quite yet.