I'll let the video and comments in the link speak for themselves, but interested to get people's thoughts.
SIAP - Who's in the wrong here?
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Northern is watching that clip and saying to himself, "He shoulda punched her."
Should not have pinned her to the ground but looking in her phone is for her protection.
That’s not ok and likely damaged their relationship beyond repair, if it hadn’t been already. Just take the phone.
Part of the agreement of my 12 year old getting a phone was that I would know the passcode and the phone would be handed over immediately upon request.
If this is not followed, I have the power to brick his phone with 3 button clicks. Maybe 4.
That's a dad with really bad parenting skills. He couldn't think of any better way to get what he wanted than to get physical with her and be intimidating at her.
When the daughter was younger we made it a non-negotiable condition for her getting a phone that we knew the password and had the right to get her phone and look at whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. If she didn't agree to it, then she didn't have to have a phone.
Once she hit 18 we no longer went into her phone and looked around, but before that, we did, and she knew that we'd do it. So it was never a surprise or argument. She was surprised, however, at how good we were at finding anything she was ever trying to conceal.
If this guy is paying for her phone, and she's under 18yo, then you take the phone and not give it back until/unless she's willing to share the password so you can get into it. No additional argument needed.
If she's over 18yo, and/or paying for her own phone with her own money, then he should respect her privacy.
Either way, he's a neanderthal who's ill-equipped to deal with actual complex problems beyond grunting, pounding his chest, and bullying.
When the daughter was younger we made it a non-negotiable condition for her getting a phone that we knew the password and had the right to get her phone and look at whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. If she didn't agree to it, then she didn't have to have a phone.
Once she hit 18 we no longer went into her phone and looked around, but before that, we did, and she knew that we'd do it. So it was never a surprise or argument. She was surprised, however, at how good we were at finding anything she was ever trying to conceal.
If this guy is paying for her phone, and she's under 18yo, then you take the phone and not give it back until/unless she's willing to share the password so you can get into it. No additional argument needed.
If she's over 18yo, and/or paying for her own phone with her own money, then he should respect her privacy.
Either way, he's a neanderthal who's ill-equipped to deal with actual complex problems beyond grunting, pounding his chest, and bullying.
Why doesn't my daughter talk to me anymore?
That is some weird mental deficiency that dude has. Absolutely no reason to treat her like that.
You have all the power over the phone, you don't need to physically dominate your child.
Yeah, that is some abuse that will lead to some serious daddy issues later in life.
Yep
And she’s going to be completely messed up and end up with some bad guy who treats her the same.
I imagine if he just took it and said she can't have it back until she gave her password she would have caved eventually.
If he's willing to use domestic violence on his daughter he probably uses it on his wife. Is that really an example he should be setting for her?
Dude's a POS dad.
And now it's filmed and on the internet for all her peers to see.
If that's the mom filming, she's just as shiddy.
If it is the mom, why on earth did she let that get posted? Just completely effing up their daughter's life even more than having that chump as a father.
Dad prob wrestled her and demanded her password too.
Yeah. It's unfortunate if she's growing up thinking that this is normal guy/partner behavior, so if/when it happens to her it won't seem out of the ordinary to her.
as a matter of principle, i'd say any grown man physically imposing his will on a teenage girl is likely in the wrong
unless she's actively trying to harm someone or herself, this is never appropriate
i can only imagine what else this family has dealt with if this is how a refusal to turn over a phone is handled.
unless she's actively trying to harm someone or herself, this is never appropriate
i can only imagine what else this family has dealt with if this is how a refusal to turn over a phone is handled.
This dad is doing a terrible job and could have handled this much differently. However the daughter is also clearly hiding something and maybe the dad has tried to reason with her before this video was taken.
I do get a kick out of reading comments from some of the same posters in the abortion thread. With that, it’s too bad this daughter wasn’t still in the mom’s womb, they could just murder her instead and solve all the problems.
I do get a kick out of reading comments from some of the same posters in the abortion thread. With that, it’s too bad this daughter wasn’t still in the mom’s womb, they could just murder her instead and solve all the problems.
You’re a f*cking idiot. Just stfu
Hey look, it’s the dad in this video, only your using verbal abuse instead of physical abuse. I feel sorry for the f*cked up lives your children will have if you have any.
Great comment as usual broseph. Keep up the good work.
To be fair, I'm pretty sure their relationship was crap before this.
This. And what is the point of filming and posting this encounter. I'm getting tired of the "society needs to judge others over their worst moments" movement that seems to be all the rage.
That said, I can't imagine having a relationship with any of my kids that would require this. They all know it's my phone, not theirs and are suceptable to me looking through it at any given point. They all also know/knew there would be ZERO social media on their phone until 18. If I ask for the phone, it's handed over and not really a big deal.
The funny part is that he thinks he just made a great point.
I’m curious what you do or did or what you would have done if they didn’t turn it over?
Again, not saying a dad should wrestle his daughter but some kids are just sh*t heads and don’t do what their parents say or lay out as ground rules.
And believes that point is so exceptional that anyone who doesn't concur is in a "cult."
First off, I can't imagine my children being that defiant, but I'd like to believe I'd NEVER need to wrestle my daughters to the ground. Depending on the circumstances, I could see me doing it to my son, but there would need to be a TON more context than what we see in this short video. That said, what would I do in those exact circumstances? Walk away and brick the phone with a remote wipe/reset.
It's always easy to judge what we'd all do based on a tiny snippet of time, I'd love to see the raise of hands for the parents on here that are confident they don't have a terrible parenting moment they'd want captured on film.
If it came to that-what was in the video-he has already failed as a parent.
Or her as a daughter...for all we know she just got out of rehab and isn't supposed to have contact with her dealer and she's violated the agreement to get her phone back. Again, I honestly can't imagine EVER getting physical with my daughters, but I've also never been given a reason (by them) to do so. Ugh...never black and white, these armchair QB moments, right?
p.s.
He 100% could just be a giant POS.
Call the cell phone company to suspend service on the phone and change my home wifi password.
Dad was wrong for what we see him doing. Be curious about what led to him lose control. (e.g. nude selfies, evidence she was raped by a guy (maybe she is 17 and if 49 weeks so it's not a big deal), etc). Can't see this turning out well for him in the long run.
Hey, look who’s back! The Mclovin handle has missed one of his sidekicks. How was the time away with your boyfriend?
Looks like all I have to do is say someone’s a f*cking idiot. Just stfu if I don’t like what someone says.
With that said, you’re a f*cking idiot. Just stfu.
Why do people put shi.t like this on fuggin social media for the world to see?
Yikes, let’s hope I never have to do that. Waiting on the phone to suspend service on a phone pulse updating the WiFi password on 20 or so devices around the house. That sounds like a nightmare.
There are a lot of trolls and weird posters here but I don’t think they’re stupid. Gibbs is just flat out low IQ.
Could not agree more.
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