AKB Who lives in an extended family house as a parent or grandparent and do you dig it?
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Did it for 15 years as parents. My wife’s parents lived in our furnished basement. We established some ground rules regarding visits upstairs and downstairs from a privacy perspective.
Perhaps your situation may be a bit different based on a potential different level of care that may be needed. In my situation their health was good and they were very very independent. Still driving and also had their own entrance out of the house.
Things did go a bit whackadoo at the end though after her second heart attack. Long story.
Good luck with it. Huge decision.
Perhaps your situation may be a bit different based on a potential different level of care that may be needed. In my situation their health was good and they were very very independent. Still driving and also had their own entrance out of the house.
Things did go a bit whackadoo at the end though after her second heart attack. Long story.
Good luck with it. Huge decision.
Rick, please keep in mind that a little bit of Rick goes a long way. Be aware, be a communicator.
So is son #1 or #2 expecting? Only one of them got recently married, right? And they want to move in with you?
There has to be more to the story. I echo Harry's comments above.....there need to be strictly enforced ground rules regarding go/no go zones, behaviors and visitors.
Rick will be an awesome grandfather, that much is clear.
Honestly it depends on you. My brother and his wife have their 24 year old daughter, son-in-law, and their 7 month old at their house and they at least claim it's going well. It would never work in my house. My wife and I like to do what we want, when we want (which often includes doing nothing lol) and wouldn't handle that well at all. You know best if you and your wife would thrive under the circumstances or it would create unnecessary stress on your relationship. If you do it temporarily set very specific dates so there's no confusion or hard feelings.
Lol, there’s this rule in my house: one person at a time in the kitchen.
Yeah, most def can’t imagine it with 4k sq ft. Moms wants a farmette (she wants 4 dogs I want 4 dirt bikes and a berm for a range)
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Floor plan matters. Tried moving my elderly demented mother to my house which is traditional prairie craftsman 2 story and area agency on aging said we could not as there was no escape route from second floor where she would have been. First floor utterly incompatible with elder care. I would welcome it though I really like my kids and we get along really well. Daughter stayed here during Covid. No grandkids yet. Personally I think country as whole and we as individuals would be better off with closer family living situation
Another suggestion then
Guest houses are great
Separate entrances that act as a divider is a great plan B
Plus you need to introduce grandchild to all that diverse music you listen to. Expand their horizon early
Personally I think country as whole
we all use the word “compound” in our discussions. Meeting the owners of a 800? yard range nearby manana.
we all use the word “compound” in our discussions. Meeting the owners of a 800? yard range nearby manana.
1 n 2 got them. I’m also hiring the Jupiter pro on here for yearly 4 week golf lessons starting at 3 yo. I’ll handle the snowboarding and getting them into a race cart
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How many acres? It sounds like you need / desire a little separation from the neighbors. When you get that range built, I might come visit.
Think of the person you know who hates everyone but family and add 9% more hate that’s moms
(only kidding a little)
The challenge is train ride to Philly (WAWA Media is the sweet spot 34 minutes train + 10-15 car to station) limits farmette size. Walked this today but the commute would be 60-70 minutes twice daily. No way to live.
8 acres, no farming:
before you get carried away divide by 4 incomes
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We are very similar to moms. Good luck on the house hunt. Would South semi-rural Jersey work?Think of the person you know who hates everyone but family and add 9% more hate that’s moms
You are always welcome I’m batting 1000 meeting bros on here. That crazy Portland bro my latest fav, met with 1 last summer
seeing this manana
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I'm thinking of when I was a kid and my grandparents, aunt and uncle, and 6 kids lived in a Philly row house (three stories) in Roxborough.... Different times.
You’d dig her the most. Where do you live. If we get this done potter will be 15 minutes up the road
Mom’s grand parents packed it in tight off a boat from ireland in germantown. Mom mom lived to 100, 2 carries her name in the middle
I couldn’t do it with the in-laws either at their place our ours. The least of issues would be a huge issue: room temperature.
Perhaps a 9mm as a transition armament.You are always welcome I’m batting 1000 meeting bros on here. That crazy Portland bro my latest fav, met with 1 last summer
seeing this manana
moms so commited to her stupid 22 lr hopefully she’ll see the ar15 light after stretching her distances hereAlex Acres Range | Private Shooting Range in Galena MD
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That Martin Marietta sand/gravel facility next door, complete with lake, looks like a better purchase but probably isn't for sale just yet. Think of the night jet ski fun you can have, authorized or not.
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That I get. I was helping my folks for a couple of weeks when my dad had hip surgery. I had to wear a t-shirt and shorts in the house. In February.
Not for me. I am enjoying our empty nest at this point and the independence it brings.
My house is at 68 all year...that wouldn't change for anyone lol
Every time we stay at my in-laws house I feel like Elaine at the Seinfelds. And I wake up like Springsteen, with the sheets soaking wet. It’s brutal.
If we do this they’ll be “semi separate” quarters. Some advantages of doing this are not putting the babies in the daycare hellscape and seeing the yutes up close every day. Moms is also open to home schooling.
You should explore the ability to add an Auxiliary Dwelling Unit (ADU) to a property. This would allow you to take a single family property and make it more desirable for you purpose.
Yep zoning is important. Ideally we’d like to do 3 homes on a farmette but it’s not gonna happen 30 mins to Philly. Chester county would be awesome but the kids don’t want to work at tractor supply and HD
...But the employee discounts!Yep zoning is important. Ideally we’d like to do 3 homes on a farmette but it’s not gonna happen 30 mins to Philly. Chester county would be awesome but the kids don’t want to work at tractor supply and HD