I'm curious, are you someone who uplifts or negative who breaks down moments and thoughts of others?
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I have come to the realization that I really have no insight into how others, besides my wife and children, think. Knowing this, I keep my own counsel.
FWIW, in my last performance review as department chair my dean told me that every one in my department rated me 5/5 in trust, “never any bullsh!t.” “Totally trustworthy” + “doesn’t judge” has been a winning combination for me.
Edit: It took me a long long time to get to this point. I really was an idiot for the longest time. Dang, it can be hard looking back, being reminded of the person I was.
Yeats:
Things said or done long years ago,
Or things I did not do or say
But thought that I might say or do,
Weigh me down, and not a day
But something is recalled,
My conscience or my vanity appalled.
FWIW, in my last performance review as department chair my dean told me that every one in my department rated me 5/5 in trust, “never any bullsh!t.” “Totally trustworthy” + “doesn’t judge” has been a winning combination for me.
Edit: It took me a long long time to get to this point. I really was an idiot for the longest time. Dang, it can be hard looking back, being reminded of the person I was.
Yeats:
Things said or done long years ago,
Or things I did not do or say
But thought that I might say or do,
Weigh me down, and not a day
But something is recalled,
My conscience or my vanity appalled.
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Negative. Why should I be the only one who’s miserable?
I had three high school buddies out to my place in AZ for a golf trip in April. Two of the guys were great. But the third guy, who I invited because he is going through some challenging personal circumstances, would try to throw cold water on any situation we were in. We busted his balls because he was getting so out of hand and he eventually lightened up a bit. But he won’t be invited back. I’m done with people like that.
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I firmly believe that going through life with low expectations is the proper path. I expect nothing of value from those I meet and less from myself. I'm never disappointed. If life was good, I wouldn't want to leave.
My high school English teacher wrote in my yearbook, "you did nothing, but you did it well."
My high school English teacher wrote in my yearbook, "you did nothing, but you did it well."
I have a glass half full personality but I have 2 children who only learn lessons through pain and I work in Corrections. I can be both positive and negative given the circumstances.
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What do you think of student evaluations? I, and most of my colleagues, think they’re archaic, basically worthless, and should be relegated to the trash bin.
Student evaluations have their place but perhaps in today’s environment they’re too much of a weapon. If you use them it needs to be recognized that nuance is a lost art these days.
I could learn from them. “He plays favorites,” “He needs to do a better job in wrapping things up,” “He has an inflated opinion of himself.” (The last one was paraphrased.) There’s always some truth there.
That rings true.
I maintain that there is dignity in low expectations that translate into subpar results. It uplifts all others in your orbit. As in, "at least I'm not as bad as Marshall."That rings true.
I am constantly reminded of the Bible verse n Philippians 4: 13, the Lord inspired the Apostle to pen, "Brethren. I count not myself to have apprehended, but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before."
Verse 14 goes on for those who are believers in Christ, "I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus."
HE'S still working on me!
What translation is that?
I know Phillipians 4:13 as, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
My fat finger. It's 3: 13 & 14. Thanks for picking up on the typo.
4.13 is a heckuva 40 time! What position does Phillip play??
Whatever you need him for.
I am generally down the middle. I’m not a guy who’s going to cash in a million dollar lottery ticket and complain if I get paid out in 20s. But I’m also not going to get paid out in unwrapped pennies and make believe that’s not going to be annoying.
4:13 is so commonly quoted I thought there is another thing I misunderstood.
Thanks, LJ, for the feedback. One of my biggest problem is how to reconcile 1 or 2 negative comments about something I do that 20 other students say they loved? Anyway, have a great rest of your weekend!
No, 4: 13 is still there as it has always been, thanks for pointing out my typo.
I'm an uplifter. I work in a field where screwups are seen by lots of people. It does me no good as a leader to be negative toward those people who make errors because I'm going to need them again in big spots. I also won't call them out in a group. I will mention in a meeting that there were things that we need to clean up but I won't single anyone out. But I will have a chat with them one-on-one and check in on them to make sure they're good mentally and they can walk me through from their perspective how the error occurred. They know they messed up and they feel bad about it. There's no sense in piling on and making them feel worse and as a result, gun shy for the next time in a pressure spot. I came up through the industry in an era of negativity and yelling and saw quickly that it's no way to be. It's worked out that people like working with and for me and know where I'm coming from with evaluations.
The exception is the Ohio State fan. I show him zero mercy.
The exception is the Ohio State fan. I show him zero mercy.
Not really sure that student/trainee evaluations should have a significant role. I work with residents who are 1-4 years out of med school. Know literally nothing about practice of psychiatry but they get some say over what I teach them or did not like what I told them. Makes no sense. You can teach to the subject or for the evaluation but maximizing one will adversely impact the other. I do my trainees no favor by only telling them “good job” when it wasn’t. It’s learning to practice medicine my job is to point out what they doing wrong/bad and what they are missing, which is quite a bit. So they used to be heavily weighted at my institution until an associate dean of faculty development caught a serious negative eval and suddenly trainee evaluations really not that important!
but I should also note have a wall full of teaching awards including past 3 years running from graduating residents so must be doing something right
I’m amused by the concept of students evaluating teachers. In industry, I’ve never worked for a company that allowed employees to formally evaluate supervisors. Employees can add comments to their performance review, but they rarely, if ever, have an impact. Employees assessing supervisors would be fun for everyone involved, HR included.
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