There are so many layers to that story it's ridiculous.....for instance, and I will stop after this, I handled our finances for the 26+ years we were married, she was an RN but I was the breadwinner and I was happy to handle our finances....well the very first year we were divorced and I was not there to pay the life insurance bill for her guess what happened? Yup, she didn't pay it. She chose instead to buy new carpet. 3 months later she dies. So she screwed up out kids future by not having life ins, and if her and I had been married for just a few more months, I would have been the beneficiary to a helluva lot of money from not one, but 2 life ins policies. Uggh.
In all serious though she was a fantastic wife and mom, unbeknownst to any of us she got sick in her brain and it rewired her, hence the divorce to start with. I really can't hold her responsible for her choices in the last year of her life, it's like watching a special needs kid act out in public somewhere. You just say a prayer and ask God to give the parents the patience and wisdom and ability to cope with the situation. It was a sad deal and I hope she's in heaven and healed. I can laugh now, but she really screwed me and the family over and caused a lot of trouble on her way out, but it wasn't her fault.