I've been to a gay wedding. In Texas of all places. And it was even in a church. He was a friend from college. The look of pure joy on his face through out that day was incredible. Seeing him and his soon to be husband hold hands, recite their vows, take communion, and then kiss at the end was every bit as emotional and wonderful as any other wedding of close straight friends I have attended. I loved being there for their special day, and it's something I'll never forget. The reception was freaking amazing, too. Gays know how to throw a hell of a party after all, amirite? However, there was something that was off about that day, and it was that the state of Texas was not going to legally recognize them as spouses. Federally? They were married because they had traveled to a place it was legal and gotten a license. In the eyes of God and the Episcopal church they were married as well. But where they called home, where they lived and worked... their marriage did not exist. Today it does, and he broke down crying for joy. Hell, I got emotional for him. I got emotional knowing my neighbor won't have to go through some dumb legal process to adopt her child because her spouse, not her, was the birth mother. She actually couldn't even do that since she lives in Mississippi. Today, that boy is just as much hers as it is her wife's in the eyes of the law. I'm also laughing at one of my best friends who's been dating a guy for good while now and just lost one good excuse to not tie the knot.
If your mind is going straight to two dudes kissing, maybe it's you that has some things to work out. And you know what? That's ok. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I know many people that have tried to hide who they are, or even change who they are, because of outside pressures from what they are told about being gay from their friends, family, co-workers, and church. It's sad and terrifying that so many have had to live a double life, and even if they did find the courage to come out, couldn't fully enjoy the benefits of a marriage and family that straight people could. Now they can, and it is just so 17ing awesome. Hell of a good day.