It's a conflicting balance between privacy, awareness, and nosiness. I understand what you are saying by wanting to know for the purpose of self-reflection. Many people don't want to talk about these things out of respect for the family's privacy. Some people grew up in communities believing that if you discuss it, then it seeds the idea in the minds of others. In other words, if you hide from it and keep it secret, then you will shield others from it. But at the same time, it is a missed opportunity of awareness and prevention to some. Nobody knows what the right thing to do is, so the easiest thing to do is leave it vague and defer to privacy.
Ben Jordan has passed away.....
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It's a conflicting balance between privacy, awareness, and nosiness. I understand what you are saying by wanting to know for the purpose of self-reflection. Many people don't want to talk about these things out of respect for the family's privacy. Some people grew up in communities believing that if you discuss it, then it seeds the idea in the minds of others. In other words, if you hide from it and keep it secret, then you will shield others from it. But at the same time, it is a missed opportunity of awareness and prevention to some. Nobody knows what the right thing to do is, so the easiest thing to do is leave it vague and defer to privacy.
Between Jordan’s untimely death coupled with the kneeling fiasco and having to play the best team in the SEC, it was a recipe for disaster tonight and it....was.
I know the family needs privacy, and what I am going to say is complete speculation. If the cause is what we fear it to be, the onus is on us to be better advocates. Ben was one of those people who seemed to have everything going for him: a college scholarship, a loving family, a handsome kid, and a chance to become a professional athlete. However, I compare depression to a strain on the brain muscle. Your brain does not care about those things, and it causes us to think irrationally.)
I am blessed to have good financial standing, a loving family and strong group of friends, an Ivy League-degree and law degree, and yet there are still days where I feel like I do not want to get out of bed. I just have to accept the fact that there is no cure, and it is a problem I will be battling the rest of my life. I just need to recognize when the downs will be so I can reach out to my support system. Sometimes I wish I could live my life in ignorance, oblivious to the evils that permeate our society. Luckily, my church has been great. Hope you can say a prayer for all of us BBN.
I am blessed to have good financial standing, a loving family and strong group of friends, an Ivy League-degree and law degree, and yet there are still days where I feel like I do not want to get out of bed. I just have to accept the fact that there is no cure, and it is a problem I will be battling the rest of my life. I just need to recognize when the downs will be so I can reach out to my support system. Sometimes I wish I could live my life in ignorance, oblivious to the evils that permeate our society. Luckily, my church has been great. Hope you can say a prayer for all of us BBN.
Loved seeing his big smile on the bench. I always root for Kentucky born players. Whatever the cause of death I hope the young man is finally at peace.
MD, I talked to a lady yesterday here in Muhlenberg Co., she was telling me she lost a cousin in a car wreck on Christmas Eve, strange.
I'm sorry to hear that Ben passed away. My condolences to his family and the UK community.
As some here know, I lost my oldest son almost 6 years ago, and I still wake up thinking about that terrible day. No parent, none, should ever have to endure the loss of a child; it isn't natural, and the grief never, ever goes away.
I took off work all this week, as I normally do, so I can grieve without having to focus at work. I know what this young man's parents are going through, and my heart breaks for them.
All we can do is get up each day and go on living for those still with us; for me that's my soon to be 16 year old son. (He turns 16 on Tuesday) Tell your children, and everyone close to you, that you love them every day, and make sure they KNOW you love them, because they may not be here tomorrow.
My oldest was 26 when he passed away, and our final conversation was not good; I'll have to live with that for the remainder of my life. Don't end the day angry with anyone close to you; whatever it takes, make amends and tell that person you love them.
Thoughts and prayers to Ben's family at this, their worst nightmare come true.
So sorry to hear this. Prayers for you as well.As some here know, I lost my oldest son almost 6 years ago, and I still wake up thinking about that terrible day. No parent, none, should ever have to endure the loss of a child; it isn't natural, and the grief never, ever goes away.
I took off work all this week, as I normally do, so I can grieve without having to focus at work. I know what this young man's parents are going through, and my heart breaks for them.
All we can do is get up each day and go on living for those still with us; for me that's my soon to be 16 year old son. (He turns 16 on Tuesday) Tell your children, and everyone close to you, that you love them every day, and make sure they KNOW you love them, because they may not be here tomorrow.
My oldest was 26 when he passed away, and our final conversation was not good; I'll have to live with that for the remainder of my life. Don't end the day angry with anyone close to you; whatever it takes, make amends and tell that person you love them.
Thoughts and prayers to Ben's family at this, their worst nightmare come true.
As some here know, I lost my oldest son almost 6 years ago, and I still wake up thinking about that terrible day. No parent, none, should ever have to endure the loss of a child; it isn't natural, and the grief never, ever goes away.
I took off work all this week, as I normally do, so I can grieve without having to focus at work. I know what this young man's parents are going through, and my heart breaks for them.
All we can do is get up each day and go on living for those still with us; for me that's my soon to be 16 year old son. (He turns 16 on Tuesday) Tell your children, and everyone close to you, that you love them every day, and make sure they KNOW you love them, because they may not be here tomorrow.
My oldest was 26 when he passed away, and our final conversation was not good; I'll have to live with that for the remainder of my life. Don't end the day angry with anyone close to you; whatever it takes, make amends and tell that person you love them.
Thoughts and prayers to Ben's family at this, their worst nightmare come true.
God bless you
As some here know, I lost my oldest son almost 6 years ago, and I still wake up thinking about that terrible day. No parent, none, should ever have to endure the loss of a child; it isn't natural, and the grief never, ever goes away.
I took off work all this week, as I normally do, so I can grieve without having to focus at work. I know what this young man's parents are going through, and my heart breaks for them.
All we can do is get up each day and go on living for those still with us; for me that's my soon to be 16 year old son. (He turns 16 on Tuesday) Tell your children, and everyone close to you, that you love them every day, and make sure they KNOW you love them, because they may not be here tomorrow.
My oldest was 26 when he passed away, and our final conversation was not good; I'll have to live with that for the remainder of my life. Don't end the day angry with anyone close to you; whatever it takes, make amends and tell that person you love them.
Thoughts and prayers to Ben's family at this, their worst nightmare come true.
so sorry for your loss
can't even begin to imagine the pain you have experienced
hopefully God has been able to comfort you
I won’t go into cause of death or the circumstances that led up to it, they could all just be rumors that I’ve heard but I wanted to say just a little bit about Ben Jordan.
He grew up only a few miles of where I sit now, I heard about the boy for many years before I actually got to meet him. When I finally did, he didn’t disappoint. It wasn’t his athletic skills that impressed me most, it was his kindness to all people. I knew a girl with disabilities who had a crush on him and he’d give her a big hug and sit and talk with her. He always had a big open mouth smile on his face and would greet you with a wave, he would genuinely light up a room. It hurts my heart that he isn’t with us now. The world lost a good one.
He grew up only a few miles of where I sit now, I heard about the boy for many years before I actually got to meet him. When I finally did, he didn’t disappoint. It wasn’t his athletic skills that impressed me most, it was his kindness to all people. I knew a girl with disabilities who had a crush on him and he’d give her a big hug and sit and talk with her. He always had a big open mouth smile on his face and would greet you with a wave, he would genuinely light up a room. It hurts my heart that he isn’t with us now. The world lost a good one.
Damn. I feel like a fool for ever complaining about any of the small, insignificant "challenges" I've had in my life after reading this and the several other posts here from parents who've lost kids.As some here know, I lost my oldest son almost 6 years ago, and I still wake up thinking about that terrible day. No parent, none, should ever have to endure the loss of a child; it isn't natural, and the grief never, ever goes away.
I took off work all this week, as I normally do, so I can grieve without having to focus at work. I know what this young man's parents are going through, and my heart breaks for them.
All we can do is get up each day and go on living for those still with us; for me that's my soon to be 16 year old son. (He turns 16 on Tuesday) Tell your children, and everyone close to you, that you love them every day, and make sure they KNOW you love them, because they may not be here tomorrow.
My oldest was 26 when he passed away, and our final conversation was not good; I'll have to live with that for the remainder of my life. Don't end the day angry with anyone close to you; whatever it takes, make amends and tell that person you love them.
Thoughts and prayers to Ben's family at this, their worst nightmare come true.
God's grace and comfort to all of you in this boat and to the rest of us who still have our kids with us, I hope we all appreciate what we have.
It's horrible...have 4 boys and a girl. One son is a heroin addict that is living on the streets. We've had a tumultuous relationship and l had him locked up several years ago. Right now relationship us ok , but I wake up each day wondering if today will be the day. Did get to see him for Christmas. Oldest son told me over the summer that I was dead to him because I won't pay his Bill's. Has drug and alcohol issues. 6 children and they've lived a horrible life...sorry for any parent that has to deal with these issues . Prayers for Ben's family
So sorry brother. I remember seeing a while back that you are from Louisville, I live in Louisville as well. If you ever need a hand or someone to talk too I’m around. My wife and I just took custody of her 4 month old niece. She is a heroin addict and the baby was born addicted and it has been a process nursing her to health. Lots of addiction in my family as well. It truly is a horrible deal.It's horrible...have 4 boys and a girl. One son is a heroin addict that is living on the streets. We've had a tumultuous relationship and l had him locked up several years ago. Right now relationship us ok , but I wake up each day wondering if today will be the day. Did get to see him for Christmas. Oldest son told me over the summer that I was dead to him because I won't pay his Bill's. Has drug and alcohol issues. 6 children and they've lived a horrible life...sorry for any parent that has to deal with these issues . Prayers for Ben's family