No bullying involved...the boys had never played together before. In fact they had been playing together for quite some time prior. It was over in a matter of 5 seconds.
Oh got damn it man. Read gooder. I said "other" mom and your answer got us all buying into some fantasy lesbo couple.
That's my thought...the other helicopter dad felt it necessary to let me know that he told his son to stay away from my son. Okay - not sure why I needed to know that since it didn't involve me having to do anything.
I fought a kid across the road many times, we roomed together our freshman year at WVU. Kids will fight at times, as long as nobody gets really hurt, or either kid is really older and punishes the other, let them work it out.
I have told him not to start anything but never worry about me being upset with him if he has to defend himself...and if he's going to swing to aim for the nose. At least I know he listened about the nose.
One thing I am pretty sure of, parenting is tough and there is no one correct way to do it. Everyone thinks they know best and I don't see a problem with different parents handling it in the best way they know how. If the other dad handled it appropriately with you of just informing you, then thank him and act neighborly saying something to the affect that hopefully it is over with. Key thing is these boys need to learn that violence isn't the best way to settle things. And this is from someone that has been in more fights as a young juvenile than most. But things were different back in the day where I grew up versus today where I have raised my kids but still, I wish many fights I was in would have never had happened.
I commend you for that advice you have given. I don't know about the nose part but not necessarily bad advice. But teaching your son how to defend himself is good.
Th kicker is the kid was in my yard...I had never met him...we had a ton of kids sledding on the hill. The dad wasn't even there. As far as a I know I'm the only adult that witnessed it. I didn't see who or how it started - just looked over and saw flying arms and fists and that was it...when it was over (mere seconds) they both walked away from one another. I told the guy I don't know who started it but that both were participating. he said, 'well my son doesn't lie and he told me he wasn't throwing punches'. Well I'll tell you what, I have a good kid, but I'll admit that he stretches the truth at times and will outright lie at times - kids do that and it's part of the lesson of learning why it's important not to lie. I'll never say my kid is perfect, in fact I'll tell you he can be an a-hole at times. But I know what I saw and to me it was boys being boys. I reached to the guy today to tell him I was sorry that it happened and that his son was welcome to come over and sled anytime (because everyone else does). He went all dooshbag on me so I told to keep his kid at home.
He's been in other rough-housing incidents with his friends and the next day their back to playing like nothing happened.
If it's a bullying situation that's one thing...if it's a one time happened because they playing got a little rougher than when it started and things happened, then let them work it out and don't make a big deal over it. Anytime my son has been involved in a rough-housing incident we have talked about it and the impact of it...and why it's important to control your emotions...and what to do when you can't.
He didn't drop him...in fact I thought they were almost playing at first and then it was over...and they walked away from each other...then the kid went to his knees because his nose was bleeding.
I don't want him to hurt anyone that bad (unless he would have to)...usually a good jab or two to the nose will bloody it, make their eyes water, and stun them enough to reconsider their actions.
