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<blockquote data-quote="HurdyGurdyEer" data-source="post: 129688016" data-attributes="member: 1746848">Losing a loved one or a close friend can be a bit disorienting because it's like a piece of who we are, a piece of our own identity, is taken away. We lose a friend. And we lose a piece of ourselves.Grief is real and can be a powerful undercurrent in our lives that we may not be fully cognizant of at times. If we are prone to see the imperfection, or incompleteness, of others, that unrecognized undercurrent of grief over the loss of a loved one, and the loss of a part of ourselves, can manifest itself in being that much more judgmental or aggravated with other people. It's like we expect them to make up what is now lacking in our life.Just recognize that. And even though you don't believe in the &quot;magic&quot; of prayer it very well may be a good thing to offer some test prayers along the lines of, &quot;God ... if you really are there ... what lesson would you have me learn from this loss? Are there lessons to learn from death? Can life be enriched by grappling with the reality of death?&quot; Just some food for thought.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="HurdyGurdyEer, post: 129688016, member: 1746848"] Losing a loved one or a close friend can be a bit disorienting because it's like a piece of who we are, a piece of our own identity, is taken away. We lose a friend. And we lose a piece of ourselves. Grief is real and can be a powerful undercurrent in our lives that we may not be fully cognizant of at times. If we are prone to see the imperfection, or incompleteness, of others, that unrecognized undercurrent of grief over the loss of a loved one, and the loss of a part of ourselves, can manifest itself in being that much more judgmental or aggravated with other people. It's like we expect them to make up what is now lacking in our life. Just recognize that. And even though you don't believe in the "magic" of prayer it very well may be a good thing to offer some test prayers along the lines of, "God ... if you really are there ... what lesson would you have me learn from this loss? Are there lessons to learn from death? Can life be enriched by grappling with the reality of death?" Just some food for thought. [/QUOTE]

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