I've never seen a subject get people riled up like travel baseball. I never see many people that were involved with travel get all upset, in fact, its quite the opposite. Most people involved say they made great memories and those were some of the best times of their life. The argument from the naysayers tend to be why are y'all spending all that money to drive 2 hours to play the same teams you just played to win a plastic ring or the like.
I don't see long threads bashing the fisherman for spending thousands of dollars and hours of travel to... fish. Or the crazy amount of money spent for all the gear required and securing land to duck hunt. How about that home down payment to go to Colorado and have some one guide you to a deer. Let's see some threads about how ridiculous it is to pay up front and monthly fees in order to hit some golf balls. Don't you think it is just crazy to spend 50k on a tractor and implements to maintain the 5 acres of land just purchased.
I could go on and on. The point is people have extra money to spend somewhere and nobody cares what other people do with their money, except travel ball. 'Tis funny to me, but, ultimately I think it is because all those other activities can be done by anyone no matter how bad you suck. But if your kid is not good at the travel ball sport, he/she won't find the field. And nothing pisses off parents/grandparents more than telling their offspring they just ain't good enough, hence travel ball is the devil.
PSA: Don't let what other people do with their time and money get you upset if it is not directly affecting you. Ultimately, people seek out a hobby that brings them pleasure. And more times than not the hobby is not very productive toward anything of substance as it is designed for personal pleasure and relief from everyday real world problems. Have a nice day and find yourself a hobby!
Mainly it's because it impacts kids. I don't think people really care about the money other than excluding kids and also hearing parents say stupid **** like they are doing it for scholarship money when they are playing baseball and based on the parent's athleticism there is ~ 0% chance they will get a scholarship to anything besides a JUCO that they could get paid for anyway. Although I do feel bad for the parents struggling to keep up because they don't want their child to miss out when it's just a situation where virtually nobody is better off other than the scammy tournament directors and coaches and almost everybody participating is worse off. The most extreme example I know of is somebody that got caught embezzling money. Not saying he was doing it to pay for travel ball, but that was the one acctivity where the spending seemed out of line with the income and the only thing that made us ask if he had family money or was running up debt. I hope he was dealing with something like a cocaine and hooker addition also so he doesn't have to tell people looking for restitution that he spent that money on travel ball and he's going to pay them the $100 a week they can garnish from his new job indefinitely.
But some other points that make travel ball a little different:
- Travel ball has killed one of the few remaining sources of community that crosses social classes. Kids playing rec always have at least one parent trying (or sometimes a grandparent or uncle/aunt trying), but they may not be in a great situation otherwise. The more they can be around functional families before they are teenagers, generally the better for everyone. I have had otherwise decent people basically acknowledge that they do travel to get away from kids that don't have parents working with them, and I get that from a selfish perspective, but damn it is depressing to hear people born into good situations view elementary age kids as a problem to be avoided rather a kid they could help. I get it for school. I'm not sending my kid to a dysfunctional school, even if it's elementary. But if so many people didn't have that attitude, there'd be like two, maybe three on a team in rec. It really isn't some incredible burden.
- I'm sure it happens, but I have not heard anybody talk about how their dad killed their love of fishing or hunting because of being forced to spend so much time on it when they were in elementary school. I hate our kids are missing out on the rec experience we got to have. We'd all go to the fields even when we didn't have games just to hang out. But I really hate that they are missing out while so many kids are also not having fun.
- Travel ball has helped kill free play. We are raising more kids incapable of being independent because practically every moment is scheduled and supervised.
- I guess this is just an expansion on the free play, but travel ball is just all consuming for a lot of people in general. No church unless it doesn't conflict with travel ball. No musical instrument; if you have practice four nights a week and tournaments on the weekend, who has time for that or any other hobbies? Or money leftover to pay for them for a lot of people. And they're trading off childhood and other potential interests in elementary school to keep a high school sports dream alive, which seems kind of pathetic, but it's really sad when you look at how few it's going to actually work out for. Most of our friends' kids are going to get competed out of sports when they get to high school and I'm a little curious as to what they are going to do with their time at that point. We spent every waking hour on sports in high school, and it was kind of pathetic in college that we spent all that time on something that we virtually completely dropped when we got to college. But while it possibly kept us from developing some interest or talents that would have made us more interesting and well rounded human beings that would also have given us something better to do in college than drink and party, it definitely cut down on the amount of time in high school we spent drinking, fighting, and fornicating, which is a completely different tradeoff from keeping kids from having free time in elementary school.
But again, I'm not blaming anybody in particular (well, maybe the travel ball coach pitch teams; the competition excuse is 17ing ridiculous when you are pitching to your own kid). It's mostly some people being dumbasses got the ball rolling and now everybody else is stuck with bad incentives. And maybe the people that say completely ****** things out loud. If you feel like incentives are causing you to do ****** things, just keep your mouth shut about it.
ETA: Missed a post. I'm also blaming the people that fundraise for travel ball. What the 17 is going through people's head. People that fundraise for their recreational activities are 17ing crazy. If it's a school team, sure, I'm in. But I cannot imagine the lack of shame of people raising money for travel ball. If you're too good for rec, you should damn sure be too good to beg. If little Johnny is good enough, somebody will pay him without you begging.