A lot of it has to do with what the kid's goals are, which at times do, and other times don't, align with the parents goals
In our case, our 10 year old daughter is an only child; although it's early, I'd bet she'll likely commute to a smaller school, or possibly do 2 years of a c.c. first before setting in on a 4 year option
If we were going to stay in NJ, that'd likely mean 2 years at Brookdale, then 2 more at a Monmouth / TCNJ smaller school feel
Since the plan is to move to FL, if I were a betting man, I'd assume she'll do 2 years at TCC followed by hopefully FSU (as we'll he homesteaded in by then for instate tuition, and it's easier to get in there as a junior rather than as a freshman due to less applicants and proving you can handle the college curriculum)
Now, if she weren't an only child, or was a boy, or we didn't have aspirations to move to FL, things could, and likely would, be different
Or, if she somehow got into Princeton, plans would obviously change, as you typically don't say no to Princeton